Sunday, April 20, 2014

Watching the Manosphere Crumble

I have mentioned the manosphere in three blog posts.  Reading those blogs has more-or-less served its purpose for me.

As I reported last month when discussing the state of my projects, my essays for my boys about appropriate masculinity are halfway done.  The rate at which manosphere blogs gave me new and worthwhile ideas to think about has slowed to a trickle.  A few insights get repeated, but very seldom with increased depth.

Moreover, during the past month the manosphere has crumbled.

Athol and Dalrock are writing very little.  Those are two who most often introduce new ideas that a married Christian might care about.

The blogs I found most entertaining to read because of good writing and interesting personal journeys have died: LaidNYC, Danny, Sunshine Mary.

Foundational bloggers I did not read much have isolated themselves: Roosh a year ago, and now Danger and Play and Matt Forney.  After publishing his book, Rollo is writing much less and somewhat distancing himself.

Overall, the problem is clear.  Trying to clarify and solve problems without grace and forgiveness produces too much negativity and bitterness.

Men who have knowledge and experience about self-improvement want to share advice.

But when the conversations inevitably turn from "building yourself" to "helping society" these men become distracted by hurts and injustices and have very little to offer.

Protestant Christianity teaches that we need God's help to become who we should be.  Judaism teaches that acts of righteousness heal a broken world.

The collapse of the manosphere has been a fascinating demonstration of how we equally need God's help for a third a less dramatic goal: to maintain our world with small repairs as vice wears it down.

Another flaw in the human character is that everybody wants to build and nobody wants to do maintenance.
  --Kurt Vonnegut, Hocus Pocus

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